Posted by
Rational Mind on Monday, September 11, 2006 10:30:37 AM
The current definition of marriage:
Marriage - \mar-ig\ - the institution whereby men and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family.
Gays want to change the definition of marriage to: the joining together of any two or more people in a legal bond for the purpose of having an intimate personal relationship.
The most common reasons cited for support of Gay marriage:
· Love
· Marriage gives heterosexual partners end of life rights not available to homosexual partners
· Benefits, like Social security and health insurance, are denied to homosexual spouses.
Love
I am amused when I hear Gay advocates say they are discriminated against because they can’t marry the person they love, as if love is the most compelling argument for gay marriage. As a heterosexual, married for more than 20 years, with children, I can assure Gay advocates that love as a reason for getting marriage is totally absurd.
Marriage has been existence for at least 5,000 years and until 100 years ago most people has no choice of when, if, or who they would marry. Marriage was created for the protection of women and children, passing of inheritance and to organize our social and political world. At higher levels of society, family and tribal bonds were created or strengthened by marriage.
Science has shown the chemicals in the brain which give us the feeling of being in love, rarely last more than two years. Love is a chemical imbalance, causing temporary insanity, which traps the young, inexperienced and innocent into making impossible promises to a complete stranger.
Gay advocates may wonder why the “LUV” reason has no resonance in the hetero world. For those of us creating families there is a spiritual and social aspect of marriage which transcends “LUV”. The production and rearing of children is the most important aspect of heterosexual marriage. Gay marriage can never produce children. Our society depends on the production of children. The production and rearing of children creates those spiritual and social bonds and serves societies needs. Society should reward those who are meeting societies needs by giving them special protection and benefits.
End of Life Benefits
The second argument is that marriage confers rights on married partners, like the ability to automatically inherit property and to manage health care when the partner is unable to make decisions. Since most heteros die single, either from death, divorce or from never having married, heteros don’t benefit from these laws.
The argument that married couples inherit each other’s property automatically at death is of little benefit. Most married couples have a will – or should – no good lawyer will advise married couples to rely on state inheritance laws. Many married couples make extensive plans, especially if they have property, to purposefully avoid the state laws of inheritance. The rights of inheritance in marriage laws, again, don’t benefit people who choose to avoid them or die single as outlined above.
My Mom and Dad were married for more than 55 years. My mother died. He was there to manage the end of life decisions and protect her interests, but no married partner is there for him. He is in the same position in terms of managing his own end of life decisions as a homosexual would be.
Gay advocates can’t argue they are being discriminated against because of sexual orientation because most heterosexuals don’t benefit from these laws. It is only the small percentage of people, who happen to be married when their spouse is ill or dies, and choose the use the laws, who benefit. Gay advocates overestimate this number.
Gays can and do create contracts and using living wills to the same effect as the laws governing marriage. So our laws do not keep gays from having the same rights as any single person or widow(er).
Social Security and Health Care Benefits
The argument for Social Security and Health Care benefits is also not compelling. If gays succeed in litigating spousal benefits from the Social Security administration and from employee or private health insurance companies, the result will be less benefits for everyone. Gay marriage will open up the definition of marriage to any grouping of two or more people. And, of course, there will be those few who use marriage simply to get benefits even though they really do not have an intimate personal relationship.
The social security system is bankrupt now and can’t give the benefits promised to its current beneficiaries. If gays succeed in getting those benefits, then the result will be fewer benefits for all, spreading the current sparse resources over a larger population. The current benefit for spouses is to reward and protect those who spent time producing and raising children. This is a benefit for society and should continue.
Employers are already struggling to maintain their insurance benefits and private health insurance companies are facing double digit increases in medical costs. How can employers and private health insurance companies begin to cover this on-slot of new beneficiaries? Faced with this problem, employers and private health insurance companies will retreat to covering only employees and not their families and/or stopping family coverage. Employees will have to pay for their “family” coverage out of their own pocket or possibly get other insurance not with their employer. Private insurance companies will allow individual coverage for adults and their children, but not allow “spouses” on the same plan. At a time when children are underserved, this would cause more children to be uninsured.
If marriage is open to any two or more adults then the benefits currently available to tradition men-women marriage will go away. Unveiled, the gay lobby’s push for marriage is about money and the normalization of the gay life style. In the end, their push for these benefits will result in all people losing those benefits and children will be hurt in the process. Heterosexual marriage, between one man and one woman, is an institution for the protection and production of children and as such, deserves special protection and benefits, not for the benefit of the married couple but for the benefit of children. Gay advocates should put aside their grasping for money and status to consider the children who will suffer as a result.